“We need counseling.”

That’s often the first response from couples in the wake of an affair. The betrayal has just come to light, emotions are raw, and both partners are overwhelmed. Reaching out for help is a healthy instinct — but jumping into couples counseling too soon can sometimes do more harm than good.

It’s natural to run from pain. So why do I step into it every day? Why have I spent years walking alongside people who feel more hurt than hope, who rage against the betrayal that broke their dreams, who cling to a fragile thread of possibility?

Effective affair recovery counseling requires a specialized focus distinct from regular couples therapy. Be sure you get the help you need.

Couples who choose to work toward recovery and renewal following an affair can expect to move through these stages.