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Affair Recovery Resources and Online Coaching

Healing & Hope for Hurting People

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For over 20 years, my passion has been to help individuals and couples turn snags of affair recovery into springboards for healing and change. —Tim Tedder

RECENT PODCAST EPISODES
The Patterns We Learn: Attachment Styles, Infidelity, and the Road Back
The Patterns We Learn: Attachment Styles, Infidelity, and the Road Back

Tim Tedder and Securely Loved founder Bev Mitelman explore how attachment styles form in childhood, why they shape infidelity and betrayal trauma, and how those patterns can change.

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Bonus: Free “Good Sex” eBook
Bonus: Free “Good Sex” eBook

Info about the free ebook based on our three-part sexuality series (episodes 66-68) on shame, pleasure, and rebuilding sexual intimacy after infidelity, plus a conversation exercise for couples.

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The Word After Sorry
The Word After Sorry

Why sincere apologies fail after infidelity, and the one word that changes everything.

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RECENT BLOG POSTS
Boundaries: The Conversation Most Couples Skip
Boundaries: The Conversation Most Couples Skip

You never actually agreed on what fidelity meant. It's a conversation worth having now.

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Your Children Already Know Something’s Wrong
Your Children Already Know Something’s Wrong

Your children can already tell something is wrong; telling them otherwise teaches them to distrust the instinct that would have protected them.

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Determining How Long Your Affair Recovery Journey Will Take
Determining How Long Your Affair Recovery Journey Will Take

The timeline you were given is an estimate, not a test; what actually determines how long this takes is mostly not up to you.

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RECENT ARTICLES
When Shame is Your First Lesson about Sex
When Shame is Your First Lesson about Sex

From four real childhoods, examples of how shame can impact how sexuality is experienced as adults.

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Forced Accountability Can’t Rebuild Trust
Forced Accountability Can’t Rebuild Trust

Why constant surveillance and forced boundaries can actually prohibit trust instead of strengthening it.

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I Regret My Affair. I'm Also Grateful for It.
I Regret My Affair. I'm Also Grateful for It.

A person who has caused real harm through infidelity can hold regret and gratitude simultaneously.

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Our Coaches

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“Infidelity is a wound, not a death blow. For over 20 years, we’ve guided individuals and couples in affair recovery toward healing and transformation. Too often, people fall back on familiar patterns to solve their problems. This might be your chance to try something new.” —Tim Tedder

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Help That Works

The affair recovery resources and coaching offered on this site are developed by licensed therapists, each of whom has had personal experience in a betrayal story. This site was created in 2009 to expand access to our effective treatments for users worldwide. We continue to develop resources with a passion to help any individual or relationship wounded by infidelity.