Additional Book Recommendations

More books for healing and growth. Most of these books focus on helping individuals.

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While this book does not focus specifically on affair recovery, most of the problems addressed are commonly experienced in the affair healing process. In each chapter, the author (a practicing psychologist) discusses an emotional wound using real-life examples and then offers practical research-based remedies. Each of these emotional wounds is covered in a chapter of the book: Rejection, Loneliness, Loss & Trauma, Guilt, Rumination, Failure, and Low Self-Esteem. Anyone struggling to heal from wounds of infidelity would benefit from the instructions and remedies presented by the author.
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Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts by Carol Travis

While not a book about affair recovery, this book gives insight into one of the most confusing issues in many affairs: How could a spouse change so drastically from who we thought they were? In this book, renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson look compellingly at how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right— a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.
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Parents Who Cheat: How Children and Adults Are Affected When Their Parents Are Unfaithful by Dr. Ana Nogales Ph.D.

Whether you are a betrayed parent, a parent who cheated, or an adult child whose parent was unfaithful, reading this book will help you understand and courageously deal with the adverse effects of parental infidelity.
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Forgive For Good by Fredrick Luskin

This groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into forgiveness's healing powers and medical benefits. Through vivid examples, Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that allows moving beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.
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Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy by Donald Miller

Miller writes in an easy-to-read style with content that is thoughtful and inspiring. In this book, he writes about authenticity and vulnerability and how they impact our relational experiences. I especially recommend this to men.
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The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown

A great book to help with understanding the need for vulnerability to live whole-heartedly and experience satisfying relationships. In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to think, "...I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.
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The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky

Based on a groundbreaking, in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, this book sheds light on what is happening in Christian bedrooms. It exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples--and the good teachings that leave others breathless. This book is a corrective to church culture, helping free couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can experience healthy and gratifying intimacy.
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Where To Draw the Line by Anne Katherine

This book provides the tools and insights needed to create boundaries to allow time and energy for things that matter and helps break down limiting defenses that stunt personal growth. The author presents case studies highlighting how individuals violate or let others breach their boundaries.
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Loveable: Embracing What Is Truest About You, So You Can Truly Embrace Your Life by Kelly Flanagan

Kelly Flanagan is a psychologist, father, and blogger. In this book, he answers three fundamental human questions: Am I enough? How do I become unlonely? Do I matter? He shows us how to rediscover our worthiness and remember that we are good enough.
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